Self Control and Success
Not everyone is born with a silver spoon is their mouth and many of us have to work hard to succeed in our endeavours. However, just working long hours does not lead to success but some amount of disciplining is required as well. A part of this discipline system is the application of self-control, which is required in order to keep the goal in mind.
Self-control is usually used to restrain negativism and stop ourselves from pessimistic actions and behaviour that can be detrimental to our societal or work-related positions. To be successful in any venture, a highly positive outlook is required as there are bound to be some disappointments along the way. Frustrations work as impediments to success and need to be controlled in an effective manner.
An important element of success is diligence, i.e., assiduousness and thoroughness. In order to achieve success, a person must be thorough in all that lies on the path to success. Hence, he/she must have immense self-control not to stray from his path, overcome all barriers on the way, and not be sidelined due to indulgences or failure. Such intense discipline requires a high level of self-control that marks a superior control of the mind over actions and emotions.
It is often said, “Failure leads to success”, and this is true, as one who has never tasted failure will never know what success is all about. For example, the rich dad’s son always got whatever he wanted and therefore could never call himself a success; while the poor man’s son worked hard, had failings and when he ultimately succeeded, his success was very encouraging and rewarding. However, during the tough times preceding success, he must have applied self-control in various areas of his life and emotions to be able to succeed in achieving his goal. In life, ‘you win some, lose some’; and it is personal mettle and self-control that helps overcomes all hurdles.
The cobbler on the corner of the road wished for success in the form of a shoe shop of his own. He worked hard to earn money, struggled to keep his family happy, and controlled himself from unwanted expenditure, in order to achieve what he termed as success. Self-control on expenditure was a necessary constituent in his scheme of things, or else he would not have had his own shop.
In a simple way, asserting self-control is a way of being successful in your endeavours. When dieting, managing to stay away from fried foods is being successful by applying self-control on the hunger pangs and taste buds. For some people, success itself is control and control is success.
When success is related to the mind, it envisages a certain amount of self–control. For example, academic success is possible only when concentration is enhanced on academics and self-control is applied on all other sundry activities like television, social outings, cinemas, and so on. Staying away from indulgences such as these requires tremendous willpower and self-control. Small children find it difficult to apply self-control in these areas as they are not mature enough to understand, but teenagers and young adults can reason with their emotions to utilize self-control.
To achieve success, the mind has to be the strongest to be able to give directions to actions and keep control over emotions. As Alfred Lord Tennyson stated, “Self-reverence, self-knowledge, self-control; these three alone lead one to sovereign power”